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Sakura
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| Posted: Sat Feb 24, 2007 5:12 pm Post subject: Love |
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What are your thoughts on love? What is love to you? Do you have someone you love? How many types of love are out there? Any nice love stories? Do you think it'll always be there? Can it last until time ends? |
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 11:35 am Post subject: |
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| What are your thoughts on love? What is love to you? Do you have someone you love? How many types of love are out there? Any nice love stories? Do you think it'll always be there? Can it last until time ends? |
Love is a complicated subject, and it changes between each person and their experience with it. I'm not one of those people who 'hates love' or thinks it's a 'useless emotion'. To me, love is precious, that has somehow been distorted by the media and by difference of opinion. Personally, yes, I have someone that I love, but due to situations and my current location, he doesn't even know I exist. I love him too much to the point where it hurts, but I don't know any way to tell him how I feel when he doesn't even know me in the first place. People around me have made fun of how I feel about him, saying I'm putting myself in an imaginary relationship when I fantasize about how life would be like if I really was 'his girl'. Whichever way I look at it, it's almost impossible for me to tell him 'I'm right here, waiting for you.' But I'm not sad, or feeling sorry for myself, because at least I have someone to love. I think in some ways, I believe he's my soulmate. Do you believe in soulmates? |
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No, I'm one of those pessimist's who are down-to-earth and firmly don't believe in 'destiny'. Or anything like that.
As for the subject of love, I personally don't think it's a tangible thing that can be described, because it's like the word 'perfect'. 'Love' is different for everyone, so it can't be described, while 'perfect' is different for everyone, because one person may find another perfect, while another person finding the same person flawed in all aspects.
I'm not in love with anyone, I'm sticking to schoolgirl crushes for now. If I had to say I was in love with someone, it'd have to be a person I met online, but even then it's not really love. I just like them a lot.
As for real life, I personally don't find any of the guys I know as someone I'd want to spend the rest of my life with. They all know I exist- as all the guys I might even think about going out with are really good friends, and I talk to them on a daily basis, but I'm not interested in them, and they're not interested in me.
Soulmates... No, I don't really believe in those either. :/ It's something that you say, not something that you are for me. Somebody can say, "That person is my soulmate" and then go off into the world and find someone who's all that and more.
I find that the only person I really like a lot and end up being infatuated with is my closest guy friend, and I was really really frustrated when he decided to go to the valentine's dance with a good friend of mine. But I didn't say anything to him: He seemed happy, and it's not like I was that obsessed with him.
Believe in Love? Sure. I'm the local school matchmaker, so I should probably have to. xD;
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Sakura
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:42 pm Post subject: |
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Soulmates? I don't use that meaning. Instead I use the meaning, "Person I want to spend the rest of my life with".
And I do believe I have found the one for me, I love my boyfriend very much. From the beginning that we started talking, we connected so much as in thoughts also. It was so magical and strange at the same time. |
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Aki
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| Posted: Wed Mar 07, 2007 12:59 am Post subject: |
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It's wonderful you've found someone you love very much, Sakura. Congratulations~ The world's views on love have been distorted to the point that people just don't love anymore. They say 'I love you' but those words hardly have meaning anymore (usually said when needing to get into someone's pants or some other stupid reason >_<) I'm a blind optimist, so I believe in whimsical and fantasy-like things like fate, destiny, soulmates and all that, although probably just to keep me sane while trying to figure out what to do with my dull love life ^^; But I know that I'm not chasing love, it can come when I'm sixty and greying, if it's real true love, then who am I to argue right? ^-^
Hmm, love lasting the end of time probably depends on the relationship every one of us is in. Sure, you get arguments and stupid misunderstandings, and differences in personality and opinions, but that's why a relationship exists doesn't it? Surely no one wants to be in love with a person who's exactly like them..common interests are great, but not if your partner's the exact mirror image of you.. |
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Sakura
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Love will come your way Aki so do not worry ^^ It'll happen at an unexpected time XD That's what it did to me lol
And I don't think saying "I Love You's" proves that you love someone, I mean they're just words. Someone can say it to another. Love is something of what you give. I do tell my boyfriend that I love him, but I do other things that shows my love for him and he does it too.
Yup true~ Love lasts because you both want it to last and continue to keep the flame burning. I definitely would find it boring if I had someone that was exactly like me hahaha |
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This thread caught me eye as I looked around.  Love is a wonderful thing but I'm a somewhat cynical person when it come down to my love life. I'm older and have gone through a divorce so I'm not coming from a great perspective anymore. And yet I still try. Reading what ya'll have written makes me remember all the things I felt back in the day. *sigh* I suppose thats one reason I love old black and white movies, boy meets girl, boy gets girl, happily ever after, end of disscussion.  But seeing other people happy makes me happy. Is that wierd? Even if its not me it kinda hits warm space inside my head and I think how nice it is for them. |
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Sorry to intrude, but I saw on the profile list that you are 23? Did you get married at a young age?
You don't have to answer >_<
I do believe you will find the one for you one day greeneyes ^^ |
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I don't mind answering at all. I was 19 when I got married and 22 when the divorce was final. I thought it was love and well he just thought it was convienant. I do have a date tomorrow night though, so I'm not ready to give up on finding someone quite yet. |
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Sakura
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Some men can be jerks -_- But that was a bit young~ However hope you have a good time with your date tomorrow!
I am currently 19, but marriage isn't what I am planning since I don't have money to plan for a wedding and plus no place of my own with my boyfriend. However marriage will come later on if my boyfriend and I are still together lol That's our plan |
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*blink* *blink*.. i'm 22 this year and marriage isn't even close to what i have in mind just yet.. I'm too busy trying to graduate!.. *sigh* sad as it sounds.. i barely have time to go out with friends much less date.. *wails*.. nah.. actually i'm pretty happy just as i am.. can't take on too many issues at a time.. never cope well with stress.. LOL
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Wow, what an awesome topic. I clicked on it randomly, just trying to up my post count. (hehe)
I don't think believing in fate/destiny/whatever is necessarily exclusive to blind optimism/optimists. I consider myself pretty sensible most of the time, but I still believe in fate and destiny...to an extent. I'm what you call a realist, which would be in the middle of outright pessimism and blind optimism.
Anyway. Maybe some people are destined for one another, but they never are fated to meet each other. Kind of complex, now that I think about it. Maybe those two forces work with each other sometimes and against each other opposite times...as well as the whole "making our own decisions" thing. Sort of like trying to align planets together. Sometimes, it goes awry.
I think there are soulmates, but only in the terms of compatibility. I guess I mean to say that there can be more than one "soulmate." But then again, not all soulmates have to marry each other - they can be just extremely good friends who are in tune with each other, but have no attraction in the romantic sense. *shrug*
I believe in love, though, to answer the original question. For such a small word, it has so many different meanings. ^_^;; |
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I try to love everyone as much as possible. To make friends a little happier each day, or just doing little things for strangers like letting them through the door first, picking up something they've dropped, smiling at children etc.
Love is where you know all of the other person's flaws, but can still learn to accept them for who they are.
It should grow with interaction and effort. It shall not die or grow old over time if you put the effort in to understand the other person, give them what they need and acknowledge their achievements. Realize that they are a person worth of dignity and respect.
I disagree with 'love at first sight' and 'meant to be' as it takes time to really get to know someone behind their facade. However, I believe that everything has a reason. In an argument, find out what you agree on, and try not to become defensive. Perhaps the relationship will last/grow because of it.
And on a final note:
The most important thing in a relationship is the other person.
Of course, this is all in my humble opinion
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| Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 11:16 pm Post subject: |
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I believe in love and having a soulmate, but I don't know about "destiny." ...And like everyone's been stating, "love" is interpreted differently by everyone. To me, love can be just loving a new toy or gadget that you own, all the way to loving someone you may call your "soulmate." I like the phrase, "Love comes in many forms." ^__^
I don't have anyone special yet, but I'm totally fine with that. I actually like the freedom. ^ ^
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Sakura
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I do believe one's destiny is chosen by themselves, but I think there's fate and the rest is destiny on how you want it to be. |
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